Merry Christmas to you!
Now is the time to grab a cup of warm tea or coffee because this is probably the longest post I've ever written.
Thank you for reading, commenting, pinning and sharing my posts. I don't know most of you, but I feel a sense of community whenever I read other peoples' blogs, Facebook posts and images on Instagram.
We are sharing are love of stitching, dyeing, printing, and other delicious artworks that without the internet, we may never see, let alone be able to share. We share and do not pass judgement*, we encourage and delight the the successes of other artists. Well sometimes I do. Yep.
And sometimes, I agonize over something I saw online. Meaning, someone's artwork that is so darn sublime that I think I should just call it quits because I'll never make anything as beautiful.
OK, let's get real, I am not stopping my work.
But onto judgement...
I thought about this when I was in line at my local Aldi Store in Cleveland yesterday. If you're not familiar with the grocery chain, it is a discount supermarket originating from Germany and is often criticized as selling low quality food to customers who could not afford to shop elsewhere. One of my friends once said, "Aldi's is so getto". Yep it is. And I don't care.
Aldi's serves a low income community and I shop there for certain foods. We live on a budget. They have an organic section and sell some delicious cheeses, once in awhile I'll see brand name items like Boursin Cheese, Kiefer, Kerrigold butter, and other speciality foods that are fresh and yes, discounted. I can buy a full bag of groceries for 20 bucks.
Although I shop toe to toe with all sorts of people when I'm there and sometimes a spy a pan-handler in the parking lot...
*I pass judgement.
Oh, these folks aren't like me. (I say in my head).
Well, they aren't.
Yesterday, when I was in line to check out, the woman in front of me saw a few items near the the register that the previous customer didn't want.
I heard her say, "l'll take the pierogis, and the bacon".
At that moment, I thought, "wow, she's already quite large herself, I am really surprised she's buying the food someone else didn't want" and further thinking, "It's as if she's just buying everything she sees". And I found myself judging the way she looked. Yes, dear friends, I admit to being shallow.
Then I saw her give the items to her daughter and told her to run out to the parking lot to find the woman who gave up these items.
What I didn't know is that the previous customer couldn't afford the 2 items because she was short cash.
I turned to the woman in front of me and said, "That is a very generous thing you did" and she said, "I know how that woman feels, my husband was out of work for a year and just received his first paycheck!" and she left with a smile on her face...and on mine.
I told the clerk at the register that I was 'judgy', I had no idea what she was doing. Then he told me that this happens all the time at Aldi's.
True. I am not at all like the people who shop at Aldi's.
My goal for 2015 is to stop pre-determining what I think about someone. Even from short sentences on Facebook and email.
I need to be more open and accepting and less of whatever it is that I was yesterday.